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You can have the most wonderful partner and the best relationship ever but if you allow some "negative" and "destructive" thoughts which are not aligned with your project or relationship then it will all fall apart unless you stop it and correct it.
How is it possible that one thought can break everything ?
Well... it is not really just one thought but once it appears in your mind and you will give it your attention and energy it will grow bigger and stronger and there will be more and more similar thoughts. Eventually it will possess you and it will be like a massive train which is going very fast and it has its momentum and it destroys and smashes everything that is in its way. It could be any project of yours or your most wonderful relationship. And once it gains speed and momentum you won't be able to stop it in an instant unless you derail it. But you already know how it is with the accidents of the trains...!!! there is a lot of destruction and death.
This situation of stopping the train of negative thoughts in your mind happens when you have a sudden and/or shocking incident ( accident, death of your partner/family member etc. ) and this derails your mind in an instant. In this moment everything stops and you have a chance to see in an instant what you have allowed and created by giving attention to one small negative and destructive thought which was not aligned with your project or relationship.
Thus once you become aware of this thought or thoughts it is better that you don't ignore it because you are too busy or you try to suppress it with drugs, alcohol or medications. It is better to face it and correct it. Talk with your partner or friend if it is necessary and fix it. In this way you will not allow the train to take off and gain the speed and momentum. In this way you will be able to continue with your project/relationship.
If it happens that you only become aware of the destructive thoughts when the train of the mind already runs very fast - which is quite common because people have not been taught to pay attention to thoughts - it is not necessary at all to derail the mind. It is possible to stop the train slowly and without massive destruction but it will take you time, effort and self-discipline. But still it is much better to do it this way rather then creating massive destruction by stopping the train in an instant because you don't know how much damage there will be and you are not sure if you will survive the crash.
Thus learn how to become aware of your thoughts and movements created by these thoughts within your mind. Learn how to stop them because in this way you will be able to enjoy your relationships and benefit from your projects and you will prevent a lot of unpleasant consequences which are beyond your control once the train starts to gain speed and momentum.